We were going to wait until I'd passed the 12 week mark before telling the rest of the family that I'm preggers...but once we found out that there are TWO babies, well, we just couldn't keep it to ourselves any longer.
Telling Sharen was the funniest, as she totally freaked and swore her head off for a good 2 minutes. And Shaz is not really a swearer, so was hilarious to hear her mouthing off haha. She also said it was always her dream to have identical twins. Had no idea!
Josh's mum cried, and his dad looked a little shell shocked.
My father said "shit" haha and then told me that he couldn't keep this a secret, he just had to tell the world. My mother surprisingly said, "i was expecting this". Seems she figured that as Josh's dad is a twin and Josh was supposed to be a twin, I had a high chance of having a twin myself. I didn't think to tell her that identical twins aren't genetic, so the fact that Josh's family has a history of twins has nothing to do with our two little ones. and she also reckons that many, many, many years ago, she saw a fortune teller who told her that there would be twins in the family.
My brother and nieces were excited and josh's grandparents, well, they were over the moon. Insisted on making us dinner which was sooo yummy. And they had champagne while i drank my water. oh champagne, how i miss you.
josh's brother and partner were very excited, but a little bummed as they are relocating to another country at the end of the year. they did however promise to try and get a 3 or 4 bedroom place on the gold coast so we can come and visit :)
josh's other brother and sister in law were excited but of course wanted to give us advice and tell us how hard having a baby is, etc. always so negative, those two! of course i know this will be hard work, but i am hoping we'll have more fun with being parents than what they seem to be. famous last words ha!
oh yes, i also saw my friends that night, who just happen to be identical twin girls. of course i had to tell them and was expecting them to say "identical twins are awesome! this is awesome!" but they said "congratulations" and "that's harsh, having identical twins as your first baby(s)"....
which totally freaked me out. I'd been so calm about all of this up until that point. but once i got home i could not sleep and the more i thought about what they had said, the more i started to think how impossible this whole thing would be.
by the morning, i'd worked myself into such a state, and so, crying and crying, i called my mum. sobbing down the phone, i told her I was scared. and i don't know how i'm supposed to carry two babies in my tummy, let alone look after them. and will i ever be able to leave the house?! and if i want to visit them in aus, will i even be allowed on a plane with two babies if I am travelling on my own?
mum was absolutely brilliant, and said all the right things. told me that of course i'm scared. it's scary enough being pregnant with your first child, so having two would scare anyone. and if i want to leave the house, i'll just have to get a big old double pram and i can plop them both in and that will be that. and she said if i'm tired and the babies are crying, just take them both to bed with me and we can all spend the day in bed. just maybe get a bigger bed haha.
she wasn't sure about the travelling bit, but i guess we'll work that out later. everything she said made sense, and is what josh had been telling me as i was crying in bed, but i guess sometimes you just need to hear from your own mother that everything is going to be okay. even when you are all grown up :)
anyway, my mum obviously told my sister about the phone call, and now they have put together a schedule of when they will be coming over to nz to help me out. it is brilliant as it looks like i will have support for part of the month, every month for at least the first 6 months.
I'm a big believer in the saying "it takes a village to raise a child", so really glad that my "village" is rallying around already. These twins are going to be so loved x
Sharen is getting all excited organising all your baby stuff for you, and i got roped in as well :) You have the best sister in the world :D
ReplyDeleteI agree Sarina! She is AWESOME :) Best sister I could have ever asked for. Thanks also for the "What to expect when you are expecting" book.
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